Looking for Managed VPS | Using BuddyPress + Adult Content

Looking for a decent managed VPS that allows adult content. The site will also utilize Buddypress, so it needs to be able to handle the kind of demands that puts on a server.

Currently, I am with Nexcess but found out they force WP core updates and do not honor the wp-config (which I had set to disable that), so I need to get away from them.

I was looking at Dreamhost VPS and was wondering if anyone could provide some insight or another recommendation for me?